Probably one of the biggest challenges a parent has to face, the moment your child has an almighty meltdown while you’re in the presence of the general public.
It takes a parent all their willpower not to lose their shit, as they feel the stares of strangers watching, judging and tutting. Just the other day while I was walking through town, I came across three parents all dealing with their children screeching, crying and one even lying down on the floor in the middle of the street. What I also noticed were the stares from passers by, clearly disgusted by what they were seeing. It’s as if people still believe that children should be seen and not heard.
You give your fellow troopers a nod of the head to say ‘I feel your pain’ and you carry on walking, wishing it was to the pub or bar! Racing round to get your shopping done quickly so you can get home. Most of the time you forget half the stuff you originally planned to get, and instead spend your money on sweets and toys! Anything to keep the kids happy for 5 minutes.
Parenting is hard, it’s easy to share lovely pictures with everyone smiling or pretending on social media that life is perfect. Reality is far from being perfect! You see other parents and feel real empathy for them. What people need to also remember is that they don’t know what’s going on behind closed doors. A screaming child could be autistic or have some form of learning disability, they aren’t a nuisance! Some parents could of been working long hours to provide for their family’s and just don’t have the energy to deal with people making unneeded remarks. Some families could be dealing with difficult circumstances like loosing a loved one. Everyone has a story you know nothing about. Some parents will shout at their kids in public because they just can’t deal with it anymore, some parents will ignore it. But at the end of the day we are all going through the same thing and we all want the best for our children.
So many times I have felt guilty for shouting at my babies over something so small, like running across a road or walking off while your trying pay. It’s only because of one thing, keeping them safe.
I’ve probably gone completely off topic, but I can’t help it once I start rambling and what I’m basically trying to say, is that it’s ok to loose your shit once in a while, we’re all human.